When was the last time you told yourself that you were beautiful no matter what? No “only ifs”, no buts, no strings attached.
Chances are that if you’re a woman, you probably don’t remember. If you do then kudos to you, you have to give us your tips for achieving that!
The art of self-love is a tricky one to master. It's hard, frustrating and really requires us to dig deep within ourselves to even kinda sorta get there. It’s also not a one-time, ‘let's bang this out’ kind of thing but instead something that needs to be worked on every single day. While the initial step may be difficult, the rewards for our confidence, mental health, overall success and happiness are definitely more than worth it.
In order to make this journey less daunting, we spoke to some amazing women on various stages of their self-love journey and the answers we came back with were reassuring, practical and full of encouragement.
Here are their eight tips on how you can start your own self-love journey :)
1. Do a SWOT analysis of yourself
“Observe where you are in life, how your relationships are, health is, emotions are and observe what gives you joy and what are the patterns then.”
- Nisha Gupta
2. Embrace your shortcomings
“Acceptance will allow you to embrace your shortcomings very gracefully.”
- Mona Sheth
3. Take the first step
“And also whatever is in our control, to work on those things. Whatever you can change about yourself, what you don’t like instead of just saying,” you know what I can’t do anything about it” just take the first step. Just tread on the right path.”
- Inshaa Arora
4. Don’t be afraid to spend time with yourself
“I would say first take out time to spend with yourself - usually when you don’t love yourself you always are busy, you always want to be distracted, so I would say take out at least half an hour a day to start off to just spend time with yourself. Find something you like to do and just do it. Even that is a form of meditation, just doing something you enjoy for half an hour.”
- Marina Kotwal
Pro tip: The next weekend you are free, take yourself on a date! You don’t have to even step out for this. You can indulge yourself in your favourite skincare routine and draw yourself a warm bath. Slip into your fanciest pyjamas, light a few scented candles, pick your favourite movie or book!
5. Don’t miss an opportunity to celebrate yourself!
“When you celebrate your wins, however big or small, you start to become more confident in your ability to pull yourself up. You learn that everything is surmountable. And there’s infinite potential in you to do anything. And I truly truly truly believe that.”
- Devika Patel
Pro tip: Make a list of all your achievements in the last year or month, big and small, it can even be acing a new recipe or winning a pitch. And then, give yourself a pat on the back and say a thank you to yourself for making it happen.
6. Move your body the way you want!
“Then I think exercising is a part of my journey because I loved it, not because everybody said I have to. But I love it, I love to stay fit; I try my best; I do yoga because I feel it gives you mental peace, and that’s pretty much about self-love for me.”
- Rinila Debnath
Pro tip: If you don’t have a gym membership or access to a yoga class or you are just too lazy to exercise, no problem. We got you! Like dancing? That counts as exercise! Youtube has a billion choreographies, simple workouts and stretches! Pick something new each day!
7. It’s okay to be selfish
“Sometimes it’s okay to be selfish - I think a lot of time self-love is considered selfish. But I think we can only give to the universe as much as we give to ourselves. Sometimes self-love is just saying no to something you have said yes to in the past.”
- Khushbu Thadani
Pro Tip: Next time say ‘no’ and kindly decline when you don't want to do something! It is tough but give it a try and you’ll see the change in your mental health. It will create that space for you mentally and physically so that you are able to do more of what you want!
8. Be your own best friend :)
“Close your ears, open your mind, and start that conversation with you before anyone else.”
Pro tip- More often we tend to complicate our thoughts. In such a situation, whether you are in a fix or trying to figure out some part of yourself, you can always write it down on paper. It does not have to be fancy journals, just a simple mind-map or even bullets will give you more clarity!
This journey is long but very rewarding!
- Nisha Gupta
This Women's Day, find that woman in you and tell her #ISeeIAmBeautiful!